My Vision My Dream


Materials:   Construction board, pens, pencils, markers, several magazines, scissors, glue, tape, sparkles, decorative craft supplies, paper

I was once afraid of people saying, “who does she think she is?”  Now, I have the courage to stand and say, “this is who I am, Who are you?”  How are you wired?  What do you want for your future.  What are your hearts desires?  In this section we will explore practical ways of getting to you know Y.O.U. (your own uniqueness), who God created YOU to be. By being comfortable in your own skin and embracing who you are, and to feel it inside takes some growing pains.  As you continue to grow, you will experience growing pains; and it will not be easy.  You will have more responsibility and have to make choices, be independent of others.  1) Should I go to class?  2) I’ll do my homework at lunch or after school.  3) Should I go out with my friends even though they skip classes.  4) Is this shirt I’m wearing appropriate?  What you think is interesting may not be what your friends find interesting, but do you know the real you? Do you know how you’re WIRED??? Through the exercises we will work on, you will  get a better picture of Y.O.U.   A better picture of who YOU are will aid you in making better choices for your future.

Nina, an assistant of mine, started working with me at the salon when she just was 16. She’s bright, beautiful and smart. She had B average in high school and all her dreams were planned out.  At 25, she graduated with her associates degree, in nursing. Though the road at time were rough, through hard work and much determination she graduated. Unfortunately, she almost didn’t make it.  She enjoyed partying and entertaining friends. In her last semester of nursing school, she was in danger of failing.  Nina, was looking at having to do an extra semester, after already???? taking 2 years courses to 5 years. She was devastated.  Her friends tried to reassure her that she was talented in doing hair and would be alright, if nursing did not work out.

I didn’t feel failure was an option for Nina.  We talked through many hours, instructed and supported her to do everything in her power to get through.  She had to study, talk to her teachers and sacrifice.  It was important for her, as well, to understand this happens every day when people are striving to achieve their dreams.  Success and dreams aren’t handed out, it’s an act of faith.  God says faith without action is dead.  If you don’t do something, nothing will happen.


In the end, Nina had decided to forgive people in her family and friends.  She try to understand that they were doing the best they can, and not having expectation for them, but having the expectation for herself.   She has a new family support and she has made new friends.  Nina, may have been experiencing a need to be needed, possibly a sense of co-dependence.  After 7 years she has finally agreed with me, and now believes “If you’re the smarter person in your circle of friends you need new friends”.  It took years for her to really “get it”.  She is currently working as a nurse, balancing out her new friends and still finding time to enjoy a social life. She attends church sometimes and realizes only God has taken her through.  Balance is Key to healthy living.  So seek, knock and ask for your heart’s desire.  Keep your desires stored and be humble. Take responsibility and practice getting your “self esteem muscles conditioned”

Do you have a positive self-Image?

* elements of self-esteem

* improving self-esteem

* personal standards

Elements of  Self-esteem

Self-esteem is the way people feel about themselves.  It reflects individual perception of personal traits and abilities. People with high self-esteem regard themselves in a positive way.  Self-esteem affects a young person’s ability to make health-enhancing choices.

For example, a child or teen with high self-esteem will be able to:

* act independently

* assume responsibility

* take pride in his accomplishments

* tolerate frustration

* attempt new tasks and challenges

* handle positive and negative emotions

* offer assistance to others

On the other hand, a child with low self-esteem will:

* avoid trying new things

* feel unloved and unwanted

* blame others for her own shortcomings

* feel, or pretend to feel, emotionally indifferent

* be unable to tolerate a normal level of frustration

* put down his own talents and abilities

* be easily influenced

Four Elements of Self-esteem

Self-esteem is affected by the ability to:

* recognize and accept one’s strengths

* achieve a sense of belonging

* develop a sense of power

* have and imitate positive role models.

Recognizing and Accepting Strengths

Each person has special abilities and strengths.  These strengths are unique to each individual.  While everyone has areas that require improvements, young people need to identify and use their strengths. Identifying strengths, and using them can bring enjoyment and a feeling of accomplishment.


Although, we are learning about charm, there are people who will pretend to be nice and charming only in hopes to receive something in return. For example:

1)  a new dress

2)  to go somewhere you shouldn’t go

3)  wanting someone to like you.

Charm can be deceptive, so we have to make, heart checks, and ask why do we want, need and or desire something.

We all have a space in us that needs filling, but we have to be careful how we go about filling it. This emptiness can only be filled by the spiritual, by God.  We’re made of Body , Mind and Spirit. So balance is key for us to be whole.  We have to take care of body. If we don’t care for our body, our mind will work against us, and start telling us things about ourselves we don’t like.  If we don’t read books and learn, our mind will deteriorate. We will not have any idea how to connect to our spirit.

We have to get to the root of “who we are” and why we do things.  Some of the girls who are older are probably starting to flirt with boys. Let us take a look at how it may go.

Like me  (Girl 1)

Loves to be around a group of people. Many people get a sense of importance by knowing a lot of people.

Love me (Girl 2)

Has two very close friends who knows her inside and out, and is a faithful friend.

Respect me (Girl 3)

Likes to be respected for what she knows, and is recognized for her skills.  She is most likely to excel in sports.


Perfect me (Girl 4)

Holds friendships to high standard, very loyal, most like to have one best friend, but can become easily disappointed.


We’re all wired a certain way and we need to understand again, heart check, what’s our motives. “You have to look inside and find your inner strength, and say, “I am proud of what and who I am, and I am just going to be myself.”~Mariah Carey


Start by discussing what type of friend are they.

Do they like to have many friends or a couple of friends..

1st talk about your vision board.

Vision board

A vision board is a collage of images, pictures and affirmations of your dreams and desires.  It can be called a dream board, life map or treasure map. Vision Boards are a great way to make you feel positive, and are helpful if you are using the law of attraction.  Steps decide the main theme of your board (I.e. something specific you wish to accomplish or obtain – everything that makes you happy).  Find pictures that correspond with your theme, either from old magazines, photos, etc.  Print (if necessary) and cut out your pictures.  Type or write some affirmations that correspond with your theme. Glue our pictures and affirmations to your poster board.  Hang your vision board in a place you will see every day. Materials: You could use construction paper, oak tag or a cork board.

The end of the class everyone should discuss their vision board